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Two months, more ranting

2 months old now…
He is the best thing to happen to me. And it took me this long to feel that way.
Everyone says that as soon as your baby is born, the world changes and you have this rush of emotion of love that you never felt before. And yes there was a rush of emotion for me, and yes there was love from me, but it wasn’t until this to moment, that I really realized how Klaus was the best thing that ever happened to me.
I have felt constant guilt for not being so emotional and “loving” to him or Keegan. I kept waiting for this rush of emotion all moms talk about. You know, when you just give birth and you hold your child the first time, and you are perfectly in love.That was not me. I hoped and waited for that to be me. But it was not. Not until now, 2 months later. And now it is unlike ANYTHING you could ever feel.
When I first gave birth I was basically hallucinating from not sleep for 38 hours. And then there was this alien in my hands. That I thought looked super weird and just was unlike anything I had been around really. (Not a baby person, sorry)
But I loved him, I knew he was mine, although I never knew his face all those 9 months. But somehow while pregnant, I never tried to envision what he might look like, or what this moment would be like. I was unprepared to say the least. Then all of a sudden your world is totally unfamiliar and everything you know is wrong and different and you never sleep, and all of your passions and interests are gone. And everything is alone. At least temporarily. And that is only how I felt.
But that diminishes and I finally started to see myself in Klaus, and that was when I started to feel closer. And then one day t 2 months old, my cat knocks down a plate onto his tiny head. We end up in ER (he was totally fine). I cried FAR more than he did. And the Dr couldn’t even understand me, they thought I was dying. But in that moment when he needed me and looked to me, and also wasn’t such a little crybaby bitch, I knew he was perfect. And my son. And the best thing ever, I WILL FIGHT YOU.
Okay… so long story short. Don’t feel guilty for not being the mother you are “expected” to be. Motherhood will never be like what you thought and that is okay. Roll with the punches.
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Holy Molly it’s been five weeks

Finally at 5 weeks postpartum I basically feel like myself again. I enjoy coffee thank God. For a long time I hated the taste and smell, and I missed it. Finally I drink it daily and I love it black, or whatever. Also the weather is getting better. Now that I’m seven pounds away from my pre-pregnancy weight I’m starting to work out 3 times a week. Still getting sore but I feel better. Starting to take more martial arts classes. It’s hard enough to do without feeling weak, but I think I’ll be back to normal soon. I feel very good about my weight even with a little extra skin I know that it takes some time for that to tighten, hopefully. I keep getting hurt or have joint pain, especially with the hormone relaxin in me still, I need to take it easy. Which is very hard for me because I want to immediately go back into class. I missed sparring and rolling, but I can wait a few more weeks until my body is in better shape. I am back to tracking calories more steadily then I was in pregnancy. I still allow myself wiggle room because I’m not training for anything, just trying to to get back to normal and add some strength, AND be able to breastfeed. Some days I find it’s harder to create milk when I have lower calories or if I work out too hard. But in the long run everything will work itself out. I am surprisingly not worried about those things.  I feel very much like I/ my body was meant to do this and it is all good. Right now I’m 7 lb to pre pregnancy weight and I’m okay with that. Almost all of my previous clothes fit for the most part. Some just a little tight around the middle or I get a muffin top which is awful because I have always been pretty athletic for the most part.
Cheers to mommy life. It still feels weird AF to me